Our children learn more by what we do, not what we say. Actions do speak louder than words in parenting, and you have to lead by example.
Telling your children that they have to eat all their dinner when you’ve just left half of your dinner or telling them not to shout whilst shouting at them and telling them they must do their chores NOW when you still haven’t done last weeks washing and ironing is hypocritical and confusing. Naturally, children will want to challenge this. They are being told one thing but are seeing another. Is it any wonder why so many children push boundaries and are challenging?
These situations may seem small but to children they are not. Do as I say, not as I do may seem like a light hearted phrase but it’s confusing, hypocritical and unfair. Practising what we preach is always important, but when we have mini humans watching our every move it’s even more important to follow out the things we are preaching.
Telling our children to go to bed at a certain time even when they are not tired is another one. Do you go to bed when you’re not tired? I’m guessing not. Obviously it’s a different scenario altogether if your child is clearly knackered but if they are genuinely not tired but are being expected to go to bed anyway because you say so then that’s just silly.
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